Luck Has Nothing To Do With It

I had a conversation this week with someone who was consoling a friend whose partner had dumped her on a special occasion. And another time, the same person had been dumped on her birthday. And yet another time, on Valentine's Day. My friend seemed to think that this was all just "bad luck" for this poor person and my comment was that her friend was the one common denominator in all those relationships and must take at least some responsibility for what happened to her. Good or bad, luck had nothing to do with it.

People often tell me I'm lucky to have lived in Mexico, like I just woke up one morning and decided *BAM*, I'm moving to Mexico! It took a lot of planning, hard work (two jobs), downsizing (selling almost everything I owned), changing my lifestyle (putting a tenant in my condo and renting a single room for more than a year). As I've said to people over and over again, luck had nothing to do with it.

Now that I'm back, I found a place to live in my own building and I started a job, on the date and at the salary I wanted. You think that's lucky? BAH! What people don't know is I spent hours on the phone and internet, searching for a place to live, trying to set up interviews long distance, posting my resume online, etc. Again, luck had nothing to do with it.

I had a conversation this morning with my dear friend, M.A., who knows me better (and longer) than anyone. We were talking about my job and she said she wasn't surprised when I got the money I wanted and started the date I said I would. She said I have an ability to focus on what I want and to work towards it with determination. A positive attitude is also imporant. Apparently, luck has absolutely nothing to do with it!